Dependency or deliquency??!?

I took some time to write this up! I know how much this is gonna mean to you guys! If you've had a relationship before, Guess its too late for you to read this, but still you can learn stuff . For all those who haven't been in a relationship before! This is my write up to gaurd people!

I have been thinking about the relationship dependency lately, but to give a brief overview of it, it’s the case where someone gets involved in a relationship just because he is in need of a partner and not because he truly loves that person. What's really concerning is that most of the relationships people undergo are a result of pure dependency and not of a product of real love. That’s why many of them end with break-ups.

For instance, I had this friend of mine who always hated women [Pretenders]. He met a girl in his college who looks really beautiful. He somehow managed to get in touch with that girl.
That girl seemed to have come from a well doing family. This friend of mine is a "T- kadai OC dhum Case". Let me make this ina nut-shell. They both liked each other, this guy was getting rich day by day! All of a sudden, the girl was never seen in college! Everybody kept asking the guy about the girl, he was pschyed and had no idea about what happened to the girl.

One fine day, the girl came to the college with her dad to give her marriage invitations to all the professors. This guy felt really bad and again started up with that " I hate girls" phobia ! I spoke to that girl on the farewell day and I was asking her about the whole relationship thing.
She seemed very calm, relaxed and amazingly charming! She simply said, she din't wanna get into a relationship at all. Since, she already knew about the guy who always hated girls. All she had in her mind was security. So, she thought it was a better idea getting friendly with some nut case like him. She also told me that she liked the guys attitude towards girl.

Now, they both are really happy! That girl's settled with her husband in Dallas, TEXAS. The friend of mine is working with Cognizant Tech Services.[ He doesn't even worship feminine gods :) ] . I know this story has got nothing to do with "Breaking-up" at all. But, If you've read this clearly, you'd known how much can a person's feeling of insecurity can make things worse.

What if that guy had to be serious?? What if that guy had committed suicide?? What if that girls dad had watched "Kaadhal movie""??

When we face a lot of problems, our need for someone to help us out and to take care of us is much greater, and that’s why most relationships that start at times like these are just a result of dependency and not real love, and that’s why some of them may end with break-ups.When you experience a time of disappointment and uncertainty, just be aware that you are more vulnerable to falling in love with someone that you don’t really love. Just knowing this will help you put some control on your emotions until you get over your problems.

If I tell you that you have full control in choosing your partner in life I would be fooling you. So instead of giving you rigid steps to follow, I am just going to give you some guidelines that you should heed in order to increase your chance of a having a successful relationship that is based on true love and not on pure need:
* Take special care not to fall in love with someone you just need whenever you're feeling vulnerable and in need of help. It'd be far better to hook up with someone when you're in great condition and feeling good about yourself because you will be much less dependent and so probably really do love this person.
* Take the example of the guy/girl who lacked self confidence; if that person knew for some reason that he is going to develop self-confidence sometime in the future, he/she would've guessed that his/her relation will terminate sooner or later. So when you pick a partner make sure to pick someone who can sustain the personal changes you are going to undergo in the future.
* Understand the difference between love and relationship dependency. This is the only way you can avoid falling in the trap of loving someone just because you need him or her.

After all this!! A piece of information about "ME". I haven't found my "Miss. My Kind" yet. Maybe i should really smile at some girl! Yeah, Itz been long since I smiled at someone!

Itz really hard to believe that a SMILE can fix anything! Try doing it!

Peace! :)